Comments on: My kind of horror movie http://tailfeather.ca/2009/11/my-kind-of-horror-movie/ There is a difference between what we experience and what we think it means Sat, 27 Feb 2010 03:57:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Mary Lupin http://tailfeather.ca/2009/11/my-kind-of-horror-movie/comment-page-1/#comment-137 Mary Lupin Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:53:30 +0000 http://tailfeather.ca/?p=1438#comment-137 ...and only I know where my limits are... Yes. It's this privacy of knowledge that I find so difficult. It seems to either lead to explaining why I cannot do certain things, which is really unexplainable because most of the time my aversion is visceral and not linguistically retrievable, or to a requirement of simple acceptance, which undercuts the intimacy of knowledge which is what connects me to others. …and only I know where my limits are…

Yes. It’s this privacy of knowledge that I find so difficult. It seems to either lead to explaining why I cannot do certain things, which is really unexplainable because most of the time my aversion is visceral and not linguistically retrievable, or to a requirement of simple acceptance, which undercuts the intimacy of knowledge which is what connects me to others.

]]> By: litlove http://tailfeather.ca/2009/11/my-kind-of-horror-movie/comment-page-1/#comment-136 litlove Mon, 09 Nov 2009 20:38:39 +0000 http://tailfeather.ca/?p=1438#comment-136 Wow - I felt this post really spoke to me, as I am certainly someone who had struggled to free myself from the bonds of overly needy people. I wonder if that's part of the reason why I wrote the post in the first place? I do consider all the time what I should and should not expose myself to. And I agree with you - boundaries and limits are necessary and merciful, for all concerned. If a book or film (and I find films much harder than books and watch very few) cause me to shutdown internally, then there is no point in consuming them. Art has to be able to make me think and feel to truly appreciate it, and only I know where my limits are in that respect. Wow – I felt this post really spoke to me, as I am certainly someone who had struggled to free myself from the bonds of overly needy people. I wonder if that’s part of the reason why I wrote the post in the first place? I do consider all the time what I should and should not expose myself to. And I agree with you – boundaries and limits are necessary and merciful, for all concerned. If a book or film (and I find films much harder than books and watch very few) cause me to shutdown internally, then there is no point in consuming them. Art has to be able to make me think and feel to truly appreciate it, and only I know where my limits are in that respect.

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